in this daily mail article, president obama tells single men to “marry someone superior to you”…
this is why this man is the ruler of the free world. he is so effing smart.
i really believe that one of the reasons he is so successful is because he has recognized the importance of having a good woman in his corner. i know that he is not perfect, but it appears that he has put a lot of focus on and stock into creating a solid family life – and that starts with choosing a woman who has it going on, and treating her the way she deserves to be treated.
i appreciate the love he has for his wife, and the fact that he recognizes that she is a large part of his success. it makes me sad when i see successful black men underestimate the power of having a good woman in their life.
one of my male friends, who i think is so wise, told me that he won’t even have sex with a woman who he does not think would be a good mother. he has watched so many of his friends have “slip ups” with random women, and ended up being fathers to children they really did not want (#realtalk), and more importantly, with women they would have NEVER chosen to be the mother of their children, and he did not want to be that dude. this is maturity, and how grown men should think, because it is so very true.
but beyond that, a grown man who fills his time with women who either do not care about him, or do not have the tools to help him enhance his life makes me question his maturity level. i look at the lives of my male friends who have really good women, and they lead much more rich and peaceful existences. they may not be tearing up the club every night and have hella women, but they experience fulfilling, reciprocal relationships that makes all of that other stuff unnecessary. i don’t say this from a place of judgment, as i know everyone has their own path, but it’s a fact.
another thing president obama said was to “seek out a woman with good genes and marry her.” i am not saying that men need to run out and get married and start families if they aren’t ready, but i think that men need to take stock of the women they spend time with. outside of sex, what value is she adding to your life? can she help you build a solid life, and reach your goals? what kind of mother is she/would she be? would you want her to be the mother of your kids? does she fit into your life - can you take her anywhere you go? do you all have the same ideals about family and raising kids? what is she about? how does she carry herself? does she have goals? has she accomplished anything with her life?how does she deal with adversity?
i believe that if more men thought this way, life would be easier for everyone. women would feel more valued and loved, and men would get the benefits of having a wonderful woman in their lives supporting and loving them endlessly. i know it may be hard for some men to wrap their brains around the concept of a woman being “superior” but think about it - women do everything men do on a daily basis in terms of work. we make just as much money. we have the same demanding careers. PLUS we manage of the lives our men AND children. and we do it well. i am not saying that men can’t do what women do, but i think God gave us a sense of grace that makes us special. and if you see this in a woman in your life, why would you not want to scoop her up, and honor and nurture this beautiful gift?
i know that there are men out there who believe this, and i am patiently waiting to meet one :)
that is all. as you were…
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