i always talk about how much i love my fabulous friends, and how amazing they all are. my friends are beautiful, smart, successful, interesting, and fun! i even started a series called wisegals to honor them. i recognize the importance of surrounding myself with fabulousness if i want to maintain and increase my own, but this article shed even more light on the importance of your clique.
“you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – jim rohn
think about that…i am assuming if you have kids, you can exclude them from the mix, but the five adults with whom you spend the most time influence your level of success. as biggie said, “who you be with?”…i know that’s horrible grammar, but it is very important to think about who gets the gift of your time and divine energy.
the article offers an interesting perspective - it basically says not only should we consciously choose to be friend with people who can better our lives, but that we should spend no more than five minutes with those who cannot enhance our lives! check out this quote about a man who changed his habits in order to become more successful:
“…if someone could improve his life, he spent as much time around them as possible. if someone could drag him down, he never spent more than five minutes around them. after following his ‘make or break’ list, the man was able to become a millionaire within three years…”
i have mixed feelings about this approach because i have never chosen my friends based on who they are, what they have, or what they can do for me. i do not do well with social climbing and schmoozing, and prefer more organic connections. i am a good energy reader, and social climbers always come across desperate and disingenuine. however, there is definitely something to be said about limiting the time you spend with people who can drag you down. energy is real. and it is so important to be around those who have the same zeal for success. we all know people who are not where they want to be in life, and they have the tendency to suck the life out of you! that type of energy is not going to support you in being your best self, which is why its presence in your life must be limited.