May 2013
22 posts
“you have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from...”
– iyanla vanzant
what i know: how do you represent on social media?
i made the following comment on facebook last week:
“…you can learn a lot about a man by watching his social media…you never get the full story, but it is clear what he WANTS you to know about his life…and whatever he is repping on fb, twitter, and IG is probably what is most important to him. #dontignorethesigns…”
a lot of people - men especially - seemed to like this post, so i thought i...
“all you do is give me answers. just give me the right answers…”
– sam rothstein, “casino”
“beauty is worse than wine, it intoxicates both the holder and beholder.”
– aldous huxley
hautesh*t: random tidbits that make life easier
we all have so much going on, and life can be hectic and stressful, so i am always on the look out for ideas that can lighten my load in any way. i ran across this list of nifty things on a tumblr page (thespacegoat) that offers some little known information that can make life a little easier. i highlighted a few of my favorites…check them out:
• accidentally close a tab? ctrl+shift+t...
“…girls will be your friends - they’ll act like it anyway. but just...”
– marilyn monroe
adventures in pulling: ex for a reason
“pulling” is british slang for “dating”…well technically it means, “to attract a person in a romantic way”
as you know, i am going through a personal renaissance, and it seems like i learn a new lesson every day. and the biggest lesson i have learned as of late, regarding my romantic life, is that he is my ex for a reason. it may sound simple, but it is easy to forget.
a number of things have...
“beauty, n: the power by which a woman charms a lover and terrifies a husband.”
– ambrose bierce
what i know: your clique matters
i always talk about how much i love my fabulous friends, and how amazing they all are. my friends are beautiful, smart, successful, interesting, and fun! i even started a series called wisegals to honor them. i recognize the importance of surrounding myself with fabulousness if i want to maintain and increase my own, but this article shed even more light on the importance of your clique.
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“never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.”
– corrie ten boom
“the more you trust your intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger...”
– gisele bundchen
(who knew, right? lol…)
hautesh*t: men, stop telling women on the street...
i saw this article on thefrisky.com a while ago, but i ran across it again today and found it hella fitting because i was in atlanta last week for work, and was told countless times by men to “smile” whenever i walked out of the building for lunch. my office was located in a très #tragique part of town that i would have never been in otherwise, which leant to the element that...
“…the world’s just a big place for us to go and f*ck up in it…”
– iesha, “poetic justice”
listes: seven life lessons
i saw this post a few weeks ago on thelifefiles.com (one of my favorite blogs) offering 20 life lessons, per kareem abdul jabbar. one thing that i know more than anything is that with age and life experience comes wisdom - if you are smart enough to pay attention and recognize lessons. there is nothing worse than an old fool, and i marvel at people who seemingly...
“a witty woman is a treasure; a witty beauty is a power.”
– george meredith
“do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on...”
– buddha
“the love we give away is the only love we keep.”
– elbert hubbard
wisegals: sherise eways
wisegals is a series specifically highlighting my amazingly fabulous girlfriends…”who you be with?” (~the notorious BIG) #getinvolved
*deep sigh*
i am a little #verklempt because i am so, so proud of my boo from way back, sherise eways. i have known sherise since the 90s, and she is one of the sweetest, most lovely people i have ever met. we bonded over our love for our friend, nic (aka...
“i am always doing that which i cannot do, in order that i may learn how to do...”
– pablo picasso
what i know: "the boyfriend experience"
i once saw a movie called “the girlfriend experience” starring porn star sasha grey, (although this was not porn…she also played vince’s gf on “entourage” #getinvolved) which was about a high-class prostitute in nyc whose specialty was actually spending time with men, giving them the “girlfriend experience” as opposed to just sex. she would have...
“i get so lonely, can’t let just anybody hold me…you are the one that...”
– janet jackson, “i get so lonely”
April 2013
35 posts
hautemama is way too busy & important!
:) posting will resume when she can get her life! :) love you! #lightandlove
“live as if you were to die tomorrow. learn as if you were to live forever.”
– mahatma ghandi
adventures in pulling: "the new rules" for dating...
“pulling” is british slang for “dating”…well technically it means, “to attract a person in a romantic way”
remember that book, “the rules” that was supposed to be a “dating bible for women” back in 1995? i was in high school then, so i wasn’t at a point where i would have considered purchasing a book to give me dating tips. but now, i am always intrigued by these...
“the most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with...”
– diane von furstenberg
wisegals: frankie bethea
wisegals is a series specifically highlighting my amazingly fabulous girlfriends…”who you be with?” (~the notorious BIG) #getinvolved
i believe you are the company you keep, and i am so honored to have so many tremendous women in my life! i am honored to know so many talented women, from all walks of life, and i am inspired daily by each and every one of them...
“be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. if you...”
– oprah winfrey
Watchyou are more beautiful than you think
i talk constantly about self-esteem and recognizing your beauty and goddess status, but of course, i have my own insecurities and issues just like everyone else. everything goes back to self-love because no matter what people tell us, we will never grow beyond what we think of ourselves.
this today’s show clip is a perfect example of that, as it...
“don’t complicate this, i don’t have it in me to hate you…”
– esthero, “gone”
one of my favorite songs EVER
“i realize today, that i have found true love, within myself…”
– ~the beautiful & talented sherise eways
http://sheriseeways.com/ http://www.she-rise.com/
listes: seven "psycho" things women do that are...
i LOVED this post from thefrisky.com entitled “6 psycho things that women do that are actually pretty reasonable” lol…what a perfect title! and it was written by a man, which makes it even more interesting. delving into the male psyche is always a treat - especially if it’s a man as smart as this guy!
i could relate to most of these, and i added a seventh i think is...
“love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
– william shakespeare
wisegals: poet gNikkib
wisegals is a series specifically highlighting my amazingly fabulous girlfriends! #getinvolved
this wisegal is one of my favorite people on earth, but she wishes to remain nameless, as she uses a pen name when sharing her amazing poetry with the world :-)
i can’t say too much about her, as she prefers for this post to be about her work and not her as a person, which speaks to how divine...
“we accept the love we think we deserve.”
– stephen chbosky, “the perks of being a wallflower”
“if you live to be a hundred, i want to live to be a hundred minus one day so i...”
– a.a. milne, “winnie the pooh”
(for my son/sun, my love, my heart…)
“if you can’t explain it to a six year old, you don’t understand it...”
– albert einstein
#church!
my son asks me so many questions about everything, and it becomes painfully clear that i don’t know a lot of sh*t.
hautesh*t: barbie withouth makeup
i love this!
the pic above shows one blogger’s take on what barbie would look like without makeup. dolls in this likeness should be reproduced in mass and distributed to every little girl to have to play with alongside the traditional barbies - for free, lol.
i talk so much about our responsibility to support the young women in our lives while they navigate this crazy world where they...
“our faith itself is potent force: we increase a thing’s power by...”
– marianne williamson, “the law of divine compensation”
Watch“selfie” nation
check out this really interesting story from abc about the psychology behind ”selfie” pics. if you are unfamiliar, according to internetslang.com, a “selfie” is a “picture of yourself, usually taken by yourself” that are ever-present on all forms of social media.
my bff despises selfies and wants them to stop immediately, lol. ...
“we don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
– anaïs nin
#church
what i know: what we hear affects our hearts (part...
i wrote a post about this a long time ago, but i think it bears repeating…
the title of this post is a lyric from one of my favorite songs from one of my favorite artists, esthero (who is beyond everything), called “we are in need of a musical revolution“…which is so still true.
i don’t know if we realize how much music affects our moods and thought processes. ...
“in three words i can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes...”
– robert frost
light&love: go within
i have been going through such an amazing personal renaissance…it seems like i learn something new about myself every single day.
the biggest lesson of all is the fact that any discomfort in my life is a direct reflection of something going on within me - not anyone else. it’s not his fault, it’s not her fault, it’s not the “establishment’s”...
“i travel light. i think the most important thing is to be in a good mood and...”
– diane von furstenberg
hautesh*t: your lotion can set of explosive...
according to fashionista.com, when travelling, be careful not to slather on lotions and body creams right before going through security. apparently, the explosives detectors at at the airport look for a compound called ammonium nitrate, which is “commonly used in fertilizers and occasionally used in cosmetics as a buffering agent.”
while there are actually only actually only two products that...
“whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and...”
– mark twain
what i know: "princeton mom" is stuck in the 70s
i have to admit, when i first heard the story about “princeton mom”, susan patton’s diatribe on how women need to find their husbands in college because they have a “shelf life”, i was uber annoyed. there are so many things wrong with that ideology, i don’t know where to begin. however, as i read the opinion piece in the daily princetonian that sparked all...
“twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you...”
– h. jackson brown, jr. 